Monday, April 26, 2021

A Miracle? I thought you'd be taller?

 


OR "Just Wash"

Recently, we faced a real challenge. We needed to come up with more than one-quarter of our annual income to pay for a mistake someone else made in less than a month. It was money we honestly owed, but someone else made the mistake. I could have gotten angry but this doesn't help. It also doesn't take away from the concern(fear) about how do you come up with that much money, without doing something radical, like borrow or sell a family member (this is a joke).

We don't have an emergency fund for 3 months of expenses as we are still working on debt. We did have the $500 that Dave Ramsey recommends for people with our income, but that wasn't even 10% of the bill. 

God would have to work a miracle. He did.

Right before having to pay the bills (there were two), we received the stimulus check and went through our house gathering every bit of money we had stashed back. A little for vacation was here, a little for gifts was there, a little we forgot about there, and someone paid us for a little thing we did. All of it added together paid it.

Was it a miracle? YES, but it's so underwhelming it's funny. It is like meeting a hero and the comment, "I thought you would be taller," or Naaman who just had to "wash and be clean" from his leprosy. 

I remember, just because it isn't a big show-stopping miracle doesn't make it less a miracle. It could be easy to mark up to chance. It isn't. It was God and I really need to thank him for it. 

So I am, If you're not impressed that is fine. It is me that needs to be grateful and perhaps this can remind us both God works in ways that are very subtle and if we're not careful we might miss it. 



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Monday, April 19, 2021

Not a waste


If you try something for six months and enjoy it but decide that this isn't a lasting and overriding passion is it a waste?

Over the last four to five months, I have nickeled and dimed (spent little amounts over many purchases) a couple hundred dollars, maybe even close to three hundred on a making foam armor. I spent my relaxation time doing the work and have a few nice but not great pieces. 

To take my work to the next level will require a lot more money and time. I have other priorities which need dealing with at this time. Did I waste my time?

Of course, each situation is different as are people, but for me, I have to tell myself NO it wasn't. If I had spent the money on ingredients to make pies for people or elaborate meals for guests the money would be gone and I doubt anyone would have complained. The time I spent was time I was supposed to be relaxing which means none productive in the normal sense. So here again no waste. 

Yet, part of me wanted to jump up, look at the few tools I bought, the foam that is unused, and say, Look at that waste!

We are silly people sometimes aren't we. 

On a side note: I used this talent to create something special for my daughter, Azi, and my grandchildren. In fact, the project for the grandchildren resulted in what could be legacy items. These things could change their lives forever. 


Ya, what a waste. (eye roll)

Note to self: Self-doubt - You're an idiot. 


Monday, April 12, 2021

Anger Emoji is Unscriptural

 

Okay, unscriptural might not be the right word, but. . . 

Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil. Ephesians 4:26-27

What options we have. We can use emojis to show we are sad, glad, hugging, sick, and the big one ANGRY. It's the last one I'm now having trouble with: Angry. By clicking this emoji, we are choosing to express anger. We are choosing anger. However, if we are Christians is there ever a time where we should choose anger? I don't think so.

Anger happens. Anger is a physical response to our environment. God designed us with it, but every scripture about human anger gives a warning. I think this is because we do get angry, but we are never to stay angry or I might add choose anger.

Every medical study, I have heard about says the effect of staying angry is bad. God says it's bad. 

Let's be honest we like to be angry. We're told we should be angry; angry about racism, the climate, the government, the food served at McDonald's, your in-laws, the criminal. . . (and now angry about a blog post from someone you don't even know).

God though says let go of anger quickly. (Ephesians 4:26) As I read it, if you don't let it go you are giving place to the Devil. In the same section of Ephesians Paul tells us again, "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you" (4:31-32). 

Not only are we to put away anger but forgive (the one who makes you angry). 

So, when we choose the anger emoji are we following scripture? No. I really cannot say we are. I personally have to say choosing anger even in an emoji isn't something a Christian should do.

I can hear you say, "but God gets angry." I agree and so being a little blunt when you get God's job then you can choose anger (okay, a lot blunt and maybe even a little rude). However, as I see it, Christians should never choose anger. 

You might say, "I need my anger to stand up against…" This is the same as saying "I need to smoke to keep from gaining weight." It’s dumb, period. Yes, it may be true but it is still dumb. Find another way.

I could go on but this is just a blog post. You want to read more? I suggest Brant Hansen's book Unoffendable

Having trouble forgiving then you can check out my book, Impossible to Forgive. I will even give mine to you free (April 12-16, 2021) just to remove any excuse that this post is just trying to sell my book. 


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Monday, April 5, 2021

The Perfect Writer...

A couple of the books I have published.




 What does the perfect writer do?

The simple answer is writing.

Anyone who wants to be a writer and an author knows there is also editing, promoting, and learning new technologies the craft requires today (by in large, no one is going to accept a handwritten manuscript). 

So what does it mean to be a writer today?

Answering this question is where most struggle. I know I do. So w
hat should I do? What does it take? How should I schedule my time? Do I need Facebook, Instagram, Googles+ (So sorry for those invested in that platform)? What do other writers do? 

It is the last question I want to answer. Oh, and to remind myself also.

At the end of the day what others do may help you a little, but ultimately you have to do what works for you. 5am the answer then get up. 9pm your time, then do that. Family commitments crowding in then maybe you need to slow down (I didn't say stop). 

I know what works for me and if you have done this a while you know what works for you. 

If you're still learning and we all should be, listen to advice and ideas from others. At the end of the day, it is what works for you. Playing loud music and sitting in a subway station might be the place you write best. I don't know how but that is me. Sitting in your living room might be or perhaps it is a coffee shop, but find what works, and then... are you ready for this?

I bet you already know the answer.

Write (edit, promote, learn,...).





ave it down perfectly

Monday, March 29, 2021

Perfectionist (don't quit!)

Definitely not my office space.


 I'm a recovering perfectionist. I like things to be perfect and in order. Though if you look around my office you might think otherwise. Why is that? 

The reason is because if you can't have it perfect then don't try. 

Yes, it's a bad motto but too often I have learned that perfectionists will quit or not even try if they can't get it perfect. 

Now, I'm not in favor of shoddy work, but we need to give ourselves the grace to do work we know isn't going to be perfect. What we may find when we do start giving ourselves grace is that we can discover the truth that nothing in this world is perfect, but it can be good.

I could say more but I've got editing to do. I've been putting it off because I know I won't get it perfect (yes, I know I have issues). Let's beat them with God's help.




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Monday, March 22, 2021

Finding Carl Rueben


 

Okay, this is just an introduction to a story/video game/ movie. 

The question I have is: Would you go and find Carl Rueben?

Relativity

The City Between

Relativity is a small part of the city. It is located on an island in the middle of this metropolis. After WW2, the government set all kinds of underground passages and safe rooms. The island was to be a place of refuge in case of a nuclear war. It was to be a kind of underground city. The project was abandoned soon after completed as ten percent of the people who went to the island were always lost. Another 1 percent disappeared. The one or two of that one percent who disappeared for a time returned.

The ones who returned gave a tale of walking through doorways and ending up in other places and times. The only people they meet along the way were the dead, the lost, or the insane. No doorway took you back the same way the only way out was forward. The only road that was safe was Bakker Street which crossed the whole island and took the bridge out of the city. Once across the river, the people were safe.

The city is run down though people still live there. Things disappear all of the time, especially food. Nothing a person lays down is safe. Most people think the island is haunted, the ones who returned tell a different tale, the lost people take it. It is also said that if you climb through a doorway you may end up going down. The ones who returned said they learned to never leave a doorway completely unless they knew it was safe. The final disturbing bit of information was that doorways were not always what they appeared.

Carl Rueben an eccentric older man goes to Relativity every week. He never strays far from Bakker street and is known to leave food, and all kinds of supplies there. Last week, he disappeared after reportedly being dragged into an alleyway by a group of young men. The police caught a couple of the gang. When interviewed they said he ran off and they lost him. They claim he took something of theirs, but they won’t say what it was.

So, do you want to go find Carl Rueben? His wife has placed a reward for his return or proof of his demise. The reward won’t make you independently wealthy, but you could pay off everything and you could take that yearlong cruise you’ve always wanted to. Just to find one man. You’ve never like Relativity, but…



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Monday, March 15, 2021

There be monster in there (the problem with the mirror).


 I will explain the title just consider this first. 

I have heard a lot of complaints lately about how bad a certain Christian business person is. I heard the quotes some taken from early on in the pandemic when they said they didn't think it would be as bad as proof they keep that opinion after things developed. Claims of being unfair and hypocritical. Proofs as the articles put it that exceptions were being made for some and not others. 

What is the truth? 

I know that anyone who rises to any degree of success is going to be hit. People love to knock down the big guy, prove that they are no better than we are. 

I guess there is some truth in the article and maybe even in some of the claims, but I don't know.  To be honest, considering they aren't in ministry or teaching any false doctrine it doesn't influence me or those in my church, I shouldn't worry about it. 

The thing is people really are up in arms about it. I can't help wonder if it's because of what has happened or as an excuse to dismiss or destroy what the person is selling.  

However, I have to ask myself do I want to be judged the same way this person is. What if every uniformed statement I make, every bad decision I follow, every sin I committed were held up as proof of what kind of person I was? I would want to hide.  I know I have misspoken. I have done things wrong. I know I am not perfect. However, I'm sure at some time someone will on a bigger level than they have in the past when my writing becomes more popular, but I'm not looking forward to it.

Ultimately though I have to consider not what others will do but what I should do. 

I have to tread carefully lest I enter the world of the judgemental. I don't want to become the person Jesus warns us about who is judging others. I don't want to become the very monster I am seeing in others. I want to give grace. Not just to those I tend to agree with but also to those whom I believe are wrong. To be not like the monsters who want to cast stones. but like Jesus who both condemned the sin (go and sin no more) but also didn't throw the stone.

I don't want a problem in my mirror, I don't want to see a monster. 


P.S. As far as the picture goes. There are too many monster images out there that will take away a peaceful night's sleep, I went with something softer. 

Thanks to https://unsplash.com/@alschim