Monday, November 20, 2017

Personal update

Yes I am still writing and the blog is getting ready for a new update in January. I don't want to promise anything as life has a way of changing our plans, but it will be something I hope you can enjoy.

For myself the updating of Impossible to Forgive has been more disjointed than I expected. So post on it haven't been forthcoming which if you were watching you already knew.

In the United States, we will be celebrating Thanksgiving. I don't know what your plans are but I hope that they good and that you take time to thank God for all he has blessed you with.


Wednesday, November 8, 2017

EM Areson and Blogging

My daughter is going to start a blog which contains short stories she will create ( This blog is to show her how I do it and to introduce you to the beginning work of a young lady who is going to develop into a great writer.

If you like short stories then you might check it out.

However, if you just want to complain don't bother, you might make me angry and you wouldn't like it when I'm angry.

CS Areson

Wednesday, November 1, 2017

Impossible to Forgive - Preface

I am attempting NaNoWriMo this year, but instead of a traditional fictional novel of 50,000 words, I am going to write nonfiction. This year I am going to update and expand my book, Impossible to Forgive.

My current plan is to publish my daily work on my blog and ask that you and others you might recommend this to might comment, give feedback, and suggestions to the work. One warning the words are not going to be edited and they will be rough. They may even be a little tough and need to be some toning down.


More than 150 people murdered, by some estimations. After the investigation was completed, the prosecutor chose only a few of the cases the strongest to take to trial. After much of the most convincing evidence was thrown out by the judge, the “angel of death” was convicted.
My own grandmother was among those victims whose cases, though investigated, never went to trial. Her murder is still alleged. Justice and closure never came through an earthly court of law.
I wish that was the worst thing that ever happened but like many of you, pain doesn’t come from only one source. Later, a very close family member was accused of misconduct. For various reasons, that never went to trial. My personal investigation found far more evidence than I ever wanted to know. Nothing could be reported to the authorities, for various reasons. These crimes caused their own type of damage and pain deeper than that caused by the murder of my grandmother.
The pain and suffering I faced were great, but due to possible legal ramifications the names in this book have been changed and details will be left out. Naming them will not change anything, nor will they change the truths taught in these pages.
It may be that there have been crimes committed against you, which also may never see an earthly judge, but that doesn’t change your struggle. For you especially, I pray that my experiences and my studies will help you find peace in your soul in a world that too often fills filled with pain, suffering, and injustice.
By changing names both the innocent and the “alleged” will be protected. My name will not be changed. I was not innocent. My sins are obvious though all too human: hate, bitterness, and unforgiveness. Through God’s grace, they have been forgiven and I have found freedom. A freedom you can have and enjoy.  

Charles S Areson

Monday, October 30, 2017

Sign of the Red Flag (A non-horror short story for Halloween)

This is something different from my normal post. This is not a horror story but a fantasy. It is actually a fun little story. I hope you enjoy this rough draft of.....

Sign of the Red Flag

The battle was lost. 

I couldn’t think of anything that we could do. These confused dangerous people that followed the dragons would win. Elizabeth was wore out, her power depleted. We were offered the opportunity to surrender before the battle began but after so much death, I doubted that they would be willing to accept our surrender now. 

I called over my servant and told him to run back and tell the villagers to prepare to move out. He didn’t realize how bad things were. Christy, Martin and Elizabeth had poured everything they had into this battle. My sword was available, but I was no expert. If I fell in battle the alliance would fall apart. 

I knew if they sent forward their main force we and the villagers would be slaughtered. I looked over at Elizabeth and I knew she was thinking the same thing. Maybe if we surrender it could buy the villagers time to escape. 

I looked around and there was nothing to tie my mostly white handkerchief to. I decided that my sword would do. I carefully drew it holding back the flame inside that wanted to ignite. I took the handkerchief stuck it on the end and before anyone could stop me I jumped over the rocks that Martin had moved to protect us.

I noticed the look of shock and fear on the face of the village leader. I didn’t realize why he had such a look but didn’t take time to think what it meant.

When I took the first few steps it seemed that every mental attack was aimed at me. I took a few more steps and stumbled before a small tree. I thought that maybe I should cut a branch and place the white flag of it. I quickly removed the handkerchief and brought my sword down against the tree. It took just a few seconds and the tree was ready. The handkerchief was tied to the top and I held it high in my left hand my naked sword down by my legs but a little out so that they could see where it was. 

I continued to walk slowly toward the enemy. Some of their warriors continued to send attacks in my direction but it seemed as if very thing had paused. I heard some yelling behind me. I knew it was my servant yelling out to the villagers. 

I saw a table sized rock not twenty feet in front of the stones that protected their main force. I planned to go there and lay my sword down. right before I reached the stone I saw it and my heart froze.

 A red flag came up from behind the stones right in front of me.

They meant to destroy us. I didn’t know what to do to show they they didn’t have to do this. As I looked at the stone in front of me rather than lay my sword down I jumped up on it and started waving the flag back and forth. 

I saw more red flags emerge first ten then twenty then so many I couldn’t count.

Then I heard the cheer from the ridge behind. I glanced behind me and the villager that I had sent word to move out had all come to the edge of the battle. The small group of defenders that we had been fighting with had moved from behind their defenses to stand on the open field behind me. 

In the confusion of the moment, I forgot about holding back the power of the sword and it burst into living flame. I looked forward again, now seeing a sea of red flags.

 I yelled “SURRENDER” at the top of my lungs. I meant to say, "we surrender."

Then it happened, weapons were thrown over the stones and men came from behind their defenses with their hands behind their backs (the universal sign of surrender in this world).

We had won but I didn’t know how.

It was explained to me later that the white cloth hanging on the edge of a town was a sign of health. The red a sign of sickness or injury.

Flags had never been used in battle before. The sight of me standing there taking the mental attack of the enemy, holding the white flag told them that we weren’t injured.  They thought we were about to destroy them. 

They had taken more injures than we realized and held up the red flags to show they were injured. Now they were willing to talk. 

When I yelled the word "surrender," it was the act that would make the red flag the universal sign of surrender forever.

Saturday, October 21, 2017

An update and What is Coming

There are only a few out there who read this and I appreciate you and hope my frail words can bring some inspiration.

The last few weeks I have been considering what I need to be focusing on. Thus the weekly post I try to get up hasn't been happening.

I mentioned that I have gotten serious about losing weight and I have lost 20 pounds and more than 5% of my body weight.

My plan is to attempt NaNoWriMo again this year but this year instead of a traditional fictional novel of 50,000 words, I am going to write nonfiction. This year I am going to update and expand my book, Impossible to Forgive. Also, I am beginning to work on a 3 year Bible reading plan with personal commentary. I will publish some of each as I feel it is right.

See you in the middle of it all.

God Bless
CS Areson

Friday, September 29, 2017

Is Dialogue Dead?

Is Dialogue Dead?

“Dialogue is dead. Welcome to the age of a million monologues. Welcome to the day when people shout angrily at empty space rather than conversing with one another. Today is a day of hearing but not listening, when accusations are made without understanding, and when we fight against one another as we try to reach shockingly similar goals.

I am convinced that we are not as opposed to one another as we think we are, but we have lost the capacity to understand. And I lament that our ignorance appears to be increasingly willful. Rather than disagreeing, we make enemies. Rather than engaging perspectives that differ from our own, we villainize. Rather than recognizing our shortcomings, we cast our sin upon scapegoats.” Pastor Nick Highland

I wish I could say Nick is wrong but it seems that he is correct. Attacks and insults seem to be most peoples’ first response. So, what do we do as Christians? Forget that question, I have been hearing and seeing what Christians are saying and doing. Maybe I should say, “What should we do?” The answer is to live and talk like Christ. How is that? In Love.

No, it isn’t easy to walk in love. Yes, we will take abuse, but that isn’t anything new for the Christian. Jesus said we would face persecution.

Next, in a world filled with the noise of anger and hate-filled monologues, what should we focus on? I suggest we look to the Bible and what Paul said in Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.”

Finally, I suggest that we practice forgiveness. It is easy to get upset, angry. and bitter. Sports figures, politicians, reporters, bloggers, the twits on Twitter and the Slander on Facebook, just to name a few, make it easy to lose your cool. However, Jesus told us to forgive and to love. There wasn’t an exception clause because someone was an idiot or because they were evil.

It doesn't matter if Dialogue is Dead, we are called to act one way no matter what other people do.
Think about it.

Friday, September 15, 2017

Christian: noun or adjective?

JD Walt is the writer of the Daily Text (Info below). Today he asked:  a couple of questions and I thought I would ask and answer two of them here.
  1. American Christian or Christian American; what’s the difference?
  2. Why does it matter?

Is Christian the noun or the adjective for a Christian who has American citizenship? 

The fact that a pot is green of blue does not change the function of the pot. A pot is a pot what color it is, doesn't matter in the least. With this logic, I have to say that Christian is the noun. You can have a Christians who are different but we are all in a sense the same. This is born out in Scripture where Paul said: "There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus." (Galatians 3:28).

However, if you talk about service, then there is compassionate service and resentfully, spiteful service and that changes everything. In this example, the type of service or the lack of it is changed by the adjective. In this, an American Christian could carry a negative overtone (in today's world it probably does) where a Christian American may not. 
So which is it?

I am going to say that the primary noun and the primary adjective in a Christian who has American citizenship is Christian or maybe I can put it in a more confusing way. 

We are Christian American Christians. 

Yet, when this life is over we will just be Christians. Just like a child is both a child and child-like but one day by God's design they will be neither: "When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me." (I Corinthians 13:11)

I know that it isn't just Americans who read this blog, so if you're from Germany, Russia, or from elsewhere, you have to change the term American to where you are from. 

Anyway, think about it. 

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Monday, August 28, 2017

Why a newsletter at TCN

Why a newsletter?

There are many reasons for an organization to send out newsletters. These are at least some of the ones we considered when we decided to launch a newsletter here at Tell City First Church of the Nazarene.

11.     Information:
We live in very busy times and though our church is close there are times when we miss out what is happening. Bulletins are lost, websites and Facebook don’t always get updated or work right. Let’s be honest our little church has a lot going on it can be hard to keep track of it all. Our hope is this newsletter will help people know what is going on.

22.     Connectedness:
The information sent out will help us connect better. A listing of Anniversaries and Birthdays will be listed and reminders of special times of when we can enjoy fellowship.

33.     Growth:
To supply an extra bit of spiritual insight from myself and others. Also, provides links to other sources of growth and inspiration.

What do I promise:

11.     That as long as the newsletter seems to be a blessing we will continue it. If this seems to not be a blessing anymore, then we will discontinue the newsletter.
22.     I (Pastor Charles) promise grammatical errors, misspellings, forget to add an event or some other mistake. I’m a doctor, not an editor. Oops, I mean I’m a pastor, not an editor (If you’re not a Trekkie, over look that last comment).
33.     To try and make looking at this worth your time to look it over.

We are family here at Tell City First Chruch of the Nazarene and it is our hope that Hitting the Mark will help give us what every family needs: better communication.

Hitting the Mark: 
What is in a name.

No, I (Pastor Charles) didn’t ask the church board what we should call our newsletter and who knows maybe after it’s been out we will change the name, For now, I have chosen to call the church’s newsletter Hitting the Mark
I wanted to name the newsletter something which would both be scriptural and fit our community. Calling it the Marksman wouldn’t work, we have people who attend Perry Central and besides that name has already been taken. Yet, I did like the idea of shooting for a goal and trying to reach something. This is when I remembered Paul saying, “I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 3:14, KJV). I memorize this scripture as a child and it just felt right. Even a student from Perry Central or Cannelton can say they want to hit their goals, so that’s how Hitting the Mark became the name. It is my prayer that Hitting the Mark will help us hit the goals God has given us in our lives and in our church. 
God Bless. 
Pastor Charles 

Thursday, August 24, 2017

Miracles from Heaven (my thoughts)

I am more often than not a little skeptical when it comes to claims of miracles. I have seen some and know that God does them, but as Chuck Swindoll said, “They’re miracles, not Commons." In recent years there has been a plethora of books and movies about miracles and visitations to heaven. I have heard the people say, "It's a great story" to which I resist saying, but is it true. Some of them make claims of things which are not evident in scripture, but normally I hold my tongue. This being said, I sat down and watched Miracles From Heaven and was thoroughly surprised. It was at times hard to watch but afterward, I was glad I did. You can decide for yourself. PC

Monday, August 21, 2017

The Journey Continues

Week one was completed last week.

I lost 5 pounds last week. I know this isn't the same for some people, but for me it was encouraging.

I keep under my point count (weight watchers food counting) for the week. I even had several treats, that I adjusted my eating for.

The first week was actually easier than I thought it would be. As of today, I am 4 days into my second week and it's getting harder. This is when the initial push of emotion has passed and the reality of what I am doing is setting in. I am still determined but the cost of changing my eating lifestyle is becoming real. I am not giving up, but I can't lie and say everything is easy.

Wish me luck, as the journey continues.

8-21-17   5 down  - 95 to go...

UPDATE 9-15-17 14 down 86 to go

Monday, August 14, 2017

A new journey (trying something different)

I am starting a new journey, or maybe I should say I am starting again. I didn't get there last several times I tried.

I am going to change my lifestyle and become more healthy/

No, I didn't have a heart attack or bad news from the doctor. No, it was something a lot worse...

My own words.

We all know what we should be doing things about. The doctor had said many times it would be good for me to lose weight. I know I would feel better and eventually it would hurt me in ways that I may not recover.

What did I say?

In talking Sunday about the spiritual discipline of engaging your Bible (reading, reflecting, responding), I said if what you are trying to do isn't working do something else. Find something that works and stick with it. It is like dieting. What does works? The one you stick with, so find one that works for you and stick with it. If what you are doing isn't working try something else.

What I am doing when it comes to food isn't working. I was challenged by a friend to try Weight Watchers.

I had excuses, but it was something I had never tried and we both knew what I was doing wasn't working. So I found a good deal, a good meeting time and started.

Where will this lead?

To success I believe, but here is the teachable moment.

At least, I am trying something different since what I was doing wasn't working.

So what in your life isn't working?

Try something else, try another path toward your goal.

I'll keep you updated on mine.

Monday, August 7, 2017

A habit, not legalism.

I have been preaching about doing what is needed to grow in Christ. In my preparations, I found one of the most important things you can do to grow spiritually is to engage the Word (Bible Study, journaling, interactive apps, etc) and to make it a habit (at least 4 times a week).

A habit, not legalism.

Some people express their concern about becoming legalistic when it comes to Spiritual disciplines but what they may be is undisciplined. 

I will give you an example of habit versus legalism.

Brushing my teeth in the morning.

Do you think I find this legalistic? Have there been times I had to jump up and run without doing it?

Of course, and no one died. (my wife thought I ate something that died but that's a different story)

So why do I continue the habit (I don't want to be legalistic about it do I)? 

Because it’s good for me and everyone I interact with.

I don’t think that I will ever find anyone so much a rebel that they will tell me I am being legalistic about brushing my teeth. Most will encourage me to keep doing it. They would say it great personal hygiene.

Yet some of these same people will look at my admonition about regularly engaging the Word, attending church, and Bible study as legalism. 

It’s not it just good spiritual hygiene (to use dental terms).

So make engaging the Word a habit, it's only legalism if you define it as that.  

Monday, July 31, 2017

The Devil rarely honors his deals.

OR maybe I should title this Why I didn't write that story?

When the Devil does honor his deal the reason is, of course, so it will benefit him.

I say this not because the devil came to my house with blue eyes and in jeans, but from what I see in scripture and see in the lives of people.

Many years ago, I had a nightmare it was very, very vivid. It came to me like a movie, in which, I was the main character, an author. The story unfolded with the Devil disguised as the caretaker gave promising rest for writers of suspense and horror and though he gave them this in body he was tormenting their souls making it possible for them to write more horror.

When I awoke from this dream I felt as if I had the seed of a novel but it terrified me. Writing it I knew would open my mind to some very dark places. Places from which I might never return. I decided that I wouldn’t write it.

Since then there has been a whisper in my mind, “This story is a best seller,” “You can have wealth and fame.” The promise seemed real but now almost two decades later, I have still never written the story, nor will I.

I have written a few small books and have written several stories. Over the few couple of years, I have self-published some of those works. I discovered though the difficulty in writing, editing, and publishing a book. I have learned that even a good story may never hit fame.

Last week it hit me, I was lied to. This horror story would never be all it was promised, yet I would have been changed. I would have opened my mind to a darkness which I believe would have haunted me for the rest of my life. It was all a lie there would have been no reward, but there would have been a price paid, I would have paid it.

Why share this?

You might even now be hearing a lie. It might not be the Devil, but it is making you a promise that if you compromise your integrity there will be a reward. The truth is whenever we compromise our values and integrity, we lose. Even if there is that on in a million chance you get what is promised, the cost isn’t worth the reward. So, don’t do it.

Don’t give in.

It isn’t worth it. 

Wednesday, July 26, 2017

The obvious answer is wrong (sometimes)

If you ever have the opportunity to hear me preach you will find that I enjoy asking rhetorical questions. 

What my congregation quickly learns is a portion of these questions are trick questions. There seems to be a simple answer but, in reality, the obvious answer is wrong.

For example: We all know the Bible teaches we have to accept Jesus as our personal Lord and Savior? 

Now at this point you may be wondering why I would blog on this. It might be useful if you hear me preach or read my blog but what difference does it make. 

The reason I mention this is, there are times in our lives when we need to question what is the obvious answer and see if it is correct. 

Is it safe to walk off the top of a skyscraper?

Okay, maybe not that one.

Most of the time you will actually find the answers you assume are correct, (like the skyscraper one) but sometimes especially in areas you are only partially informed you may find a different answer or a deeper understanding. 

What is my point: Never get lazy in pursuit of the knowledge.


By the way, the short answer to the skyscraper question is; NO. 

Consider this spirtual question, "Is a relationship with God a personal matter?"

The Bible says we have a personal decision to accept Jesus as Lord (Romans 10:9-10) 

But our relationship to him is more than personal (yes there is a personal side). 

We are made part of the family of God or as Paul calls us the body of Christ (1 Corinthians 12:27). 

We are commanded to have a  relationship with other Christians. 

The Bible does not teach you are suppose to have a relationship with God by yourself.    

Friday, July 21, 2017

The Right Time to Sow Wild Oats

The Right Time to Sow Wild Oats
Poetic Reasoning 

Someone once told me “Sow your wild oats while your young.”

But for me this did not seem sound, though fun it may be.

Because what ever you sow, you will one day reap,

And what you have planted will definitely grow.

So if I planted these weeds while yet I was young 

Then when I was grown, oh the work to be done.

Not only would I have to struggle and fight to do what is right

I would have to struggle with all the weeds in my life.

So sowing these foolish and childish acts would catch me at last.

In the prime of my life when I need it last.

So I considered Sowing those oats while in my life’s prime.

This I saw was even worse yet, 

what would my friends think of me then.

I would spend my strength in the prime of my time

spreading out something with no lasting gain

With its great harvest coming out when I’m weak 

Oh what a fool I would be to plant those weeds then.

So I considered at the end of my life sowing these weeds

Perhaps I would die, before the harvest was in?

But how would I do that after a life full of striving 

To throw it away for a little free running. 

At the end of my life what most would remain,

is what I had done at the end of my game.

I would lose then I know because the Maker would see 

these oats in my hands, my life all unclean. 

So what does it mean I think it is clear.

Sowing those oats is never a gain

The Price is too great whatever the year. 

So I gave back the oats to the fool who had said,

Spread them out now, think of now not then.

He was not happy I could see that for sure,

But I will be happy for one thing is sure

 this bad harvest will never be mine and that is for sure. 

Think about it....

Monday, June 19, 2017

Ask, Seek, and Knock (what does it mean?)

Matthew 7:7
Luke 11:9

After years of Bible Study and reading, there are few things, I haven’t heard before. There may be new ways of saying things and some renegade crazy thoughts; like the writer who suggested that the temple of Solomon was designed to keep the common people in their place and away from God (i.e., the design of the holy place and the holy of holies as "priest only" places). I digress, but I there isn’t much that grabs me and causes me to say, “Oh.”

I have always heard the scripture referring to “Ask, Seek and Knock” as a progression in pray. Martin Luther interpreted it this way as well as a number of other scholars. However, I was reading John Wesley’s Notes on the New Testament and though I have read through it before I missed this commentary on Matthew 7:7, “But ask—Pray for them, as well as for yourselves, in this, there can be no such danger. Seek—Add your own diligent endeavors to your asking; and knock—persevere importunately in that diligence.”

According to Wesley, the progression to getting what you want (if what you want is God’s will) is to:

1.   Ask God in prayer.

2.   Work toward it.

3.   Be persistent in your work.

I will admit that this is usually the way I work anyway. I pray and if I think it is of God I work toward it. However, I never saw it laid out that way specifically and it caused me to say, “Oh! I like that.”
I wasn’t going to accept it as Gospel just because I liked it and it agreed with my philosophy, which is always a bad idea. I went over and looked at other commentaries and at the ones listed in (a good resource). What I found were the two views laid out above, the desperation in pray progression and what I will call Wesley’s idea.

So, which is correct?

You will have to make that call for yourself, but both ideas can be seen in scripture. Personally, I lean toward Wesley’s interpretation to pray, then do what you know to do, and finally having done all I can to stand firm in God (Ephesians 6:13-14).

Whatever you decide it is God we have to rely upon for everything.

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

The TRUE danger in Dihydrogen Monoxide

The TRUE danger in Dihydrogen Monoxide

I saw these a while back and could not resist posting about it. I am sure someone has claimed either Obama or Trump is behind this. 

We have to be informed about the truth and not moved by emotional propaganda. If you look at these (and not know what Dihydrogen Monoxide is) you might wonder what is wrong in our world. The truth is Dihydrogen Monoxide is H2O or otherwise known as WATER. Yet people post these and repost these things. 

Know the truth about anything do not just be moved by what appears to be bad. The scary thing is people in power know people are moved by these types of appeals, emotion over truth, fiction over fact and they will try and use it against you. 

The true danger in Dihydrogen Monoxide is it shows how easily people can be fooled.

KNOW THE FACTS, before you respond to anything.  

Think about it.

Monday, May 15, 2017

Fear leads to laziness OR laziness leads to fear?

The sluggard says, "There's a lion outside! I'll be killed in the public square!" Proverbs 22:13

This fear here could be real. If you lived in a village on the edge of the Judean countryside in Solomon's time a lion could be a real concern. However, what I noticed in this scripture is not that fear is making this person lazy but a lazy person is using fear to justify their lack of activity. 

I realized that people probably still do that today. I don't want to belittle real fear. Real fear is hard to deal with. I am not trying to point a finger but placing up a mirror. You might look in and say, "No, that's not me." or you might look in the mirror and see something you may need to change. 

The person in this scripture is saying things like, "I'm going to get fired anyway, why try?"  "They hate people like me, why apply for the job?" or "My work will never be good enough so why waste my time?" and the like. 

I will admit at times I fight the idea my work isn't good enough, and who knows maybe when you read this you will say, you're right it isn't that good. If you're a writer (and you write) then I can accept your criticism.

However, at least I am not using fear as an excuse not to try. 

Here is my thought, the more we give into the fear of "what may happen" the stronger that fear becomes. 

Yes, there may be a monster blocking your way but then again the monster might be a big as you think. The only way to know is to go out and find out. One thing is certain if you don't go out "into the square" you will never succeed and you will become lazy (or lazier).

Don't use fear as an excuse or allow fear to hold you back. 

Just a thought. 

Monday, May 8, 2017

What does Jesus (and the Bible) say about..SEX (or at least 2 things)

These are the notes from last Sunday's message. They are not perfect but I felt like some may want to read them. (yes this is a long post)

Sex is and has been a hot button issue for years. People have all kinds of opinions about it, even contradictory opinions. I have always been amazed at some of the physiological studies of sex which say that the people who are most satisfied sexually are those involved in a monogamous heterosexual relation inside of marriage, and yet turn around and say everything else is okay too. 

For many people, they don’t think the church should talk about sex at all, but let me point out that God created sex, it was his idea and he thought it was good. We have created an idea, in the church that if we don’t talk about it then it will not be a problem, but it is. 

We will have our children sit down and listen to TV commercials talking about condoms, Erectile dysfunction, medicines to control herpes, not to mention what is seen and heard in the shows themselves. I am not saying that we need to sit down before our 3-4-year old’s and try to explain the bird and the bees. However, Christians should be talking about this subject.

 I bet you didn’t know that the puritans who came over on the Mayflower “Puritan attitudes towards sexuality were more tolerant than this, indeed celibacy wasn't viewed as a superior spiritual state and sex was approved of within certain contexts.

Within the bounds of marriage, sexuality was encouraged, in fact, the Puritans saw it as a man’s duty to provide pleasure for his wife. So seriously was this duty taken in New England that, by law, impotence provided a woman with legitimate grounds for divorce. Sex within marriage was a gift from God and as much a rightful expression of love as it was a means to reproduction. The Puritans approved of the stabilizing influence of married life and believed it established conditions conducive to the worship of God.” (

Volumes have been written on the subject of sex. Did you know there is an entire book of the Bible dedicated to love and sex in the Bible? The Song of Solomon

And today I took on the idea of discussing what Jesus and the Bible about sex in 20 to 30 minutes. I am going to tell you upfront, I am not going to cover everything. If you have more questions I suggest coming to Bible Study and we will look at them. However, if you just want to argue, talk to God because I am going to give you what the Bible says. If you don’t like it, talk to the author. 

Last week I pulled out a vial of liquid and said, “Holding on to anger and bitterness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.” Trying to make it clear that Jesus telling us to let go of anger and vengeance is the best thing we can do to help ourselves. 

I wanted to come up with a visual this week that might stick in your mind but wouldn’t have negative connections. I thought about using chocolate because it is something that you don’t have to have to live a good life and yet some people are obsessed by it. 
Chocolate can also be addictive and though it can be good for you in proper amounts most people don’t eat chocolate that way. However, some people don’t like chocolate at all and the idea of keeping chocolate for maybe years isn’t good (moldy chocolate, yuck!). 

Sex though is supposed to be held back until the proper time. (By the way, you will find in 1 Corinthians that if you are having trouble waiting to go ahead and get married rather than burn with passion. Isn’t that counter to what we normally tell people? But we’ll talk about that another day.)

I thought about using a gun or knife, which when used properly are wonderful tools but used improperly cause destruction. This is very true about sex. In its proper context sex is a beautiful thing, but abused or when it’s used to abuse others is destructive. (and Scripture is full of examples where sex lead to destruction) 

The problem, of course, is that sex can bring healing, wholeness, and life and a knife or gun can’t do that. Not to mention leaving a weapon at the front of the church sounded like a bad idea. 

I thought about using a tool of some sort, but then I ran across the problem of items that carried a vulgar overtone. 
Finally, I decided to go with a truck. It isn’t perfect and for part of today’s discussion it doesn’t fit perfectly but it will be close enough. 

I am going to claim that Sex is like at truck. Frist, you should understand that when a lot of people think of trucks they may think it’s a guy’s vehicle. 

But let’s be honest women use trucks too and in fact, some of them prefer trucks. It’s true with sex, sex culturally has looked at sex as a guy’s thing. Therefore, women have been warned not to give themselves to men, like there isn’t anything in it for them. 

There should be this is illustrated in Song of Solomon which I mentioned before but it is also found in 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 where Paul speaks about not withholding sex from one another unless by mutual consent (by the way, it can be assumed that besides not withholding it can also mean not having sex without mutual consent). 

Also, sex like a truck should not be used or driven until you are mature enough to handle it. Are you going to give the keys to your truck to your 10-year-old son/daughter or grandson/daughter to drive down the driveway? Of Course not!

We know that a person needs to have a certain level of physical and mental maturity before they drive and it is the same with sex. 

We also realize that there are certain rules of the road that keep people safe. Back before these laws people drove, however, they wanted to and the result was accidents. I heard about Dr. June McCarroll in 1917, who suggested that California roads have lines down the middle of them. At first, everyone thought it was a waste of money. They didn’t believe it could save many lives. 
Finally, she went out and bought the paint herself and painted a 4” line down a 1 mile length of highway. To everyone else’s amazement something happened, people stayed on their side of the road (even without laws penalizing someone) and thus accidents on that section of road decreased. She knew it that having reference point about what was the right side of the road would keep people safe. 

God gave us a point of reference too. Not to keep us from having fun but to keep us from having an accident and as I believe all of you know the deepest accidents happen in the area of love and sex. Can it be fun to drive any way you want? 

Sure, and if you own the road, then go for it. (by the way, have you ever noticed in the car commercials the fine print at the bottom, “professional driver on a closed course”) Oh, by the way, your closed course is marriage. 

Outside of that, there is always danger. 

Paul warns us in 1 Cor. 6:18
 New International Version
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.

New Living Translation
Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.

God understood when he created sex that abuse of it had consequences. Just like he knew abusing gravity would have consequences. Yet most people don’t pay any attention to people complain about the effect of gravity, but our culture does complain and gives a lot of attention to the complaint that God’s rules on sex are not right. 

Today I want to look at two things Jesus specifically taught about sex.

The first is found in the sermon on the mount. Jesus said in Matt 5: 27-30
“You have heard that it was said, ‘YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY’; 28but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29“If your right eye makes you stumble, tear it out and throw it from you; for it is better for you to lose one of the parts of your body, than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30“If your right hand makes you stumble, cut it off and throw it from you; for it is better for you to lose one of the parts of your body, than for your whole body to go into hell.

When we image or watch porn (soft or hard core) we rehearse that activity in our mind. We engage in it maybe not with our body but our spirit who we are is engaged with it. It changes who we are and what we accept. 

Did you know that one of the ways, doctors try to help patients get over fears is to rehearse how they face them in their minds…You I would bet do the same thing, you rehearse what you will tell your spouse when you come home late or forget an important date? You rehearse in your mind what you will say in a job interview. Why do you do this? So that what you do or say will come out as you want them to. You may not realize it but watching porn or suggestive TV programs do the same thing to you. 

Even your language changes based on who you are hanging out with. I remember very clearly a time when I sat down by someone in Terre Haute who got a call from the head office in Arkansas. I sat there and the longer they talked the more this northerner voice changed from a typical northerner to a that of a southern bell. Even after they hung up it was still there. 

The power of influence changes us. Jesus knew this and he said don’t let it influence you don’t entertain it because though you may not have performed the act in your heart you have. I might say it this way, by doing imagining sex you say to yourself and to God, if I could do this, I would. The problem is that someday you may. 
The other bad thing about it is that pornography is addictive. No not everyone is affected the same but like alcohol and drugs, it can enslave you. 

Side note: for men pornography has a newly discovered side effect, E. D. This does happen naturally and it occurs more as men get older but today more and more men in their 20’s and 30’s are having this issue and some even younger. By the way, God knew this and it may have been a problem in the past but with the easy access of Porn today it is growing. 

Are there issues for women? Yes, I am sure there are physical side effects but if nothing else pornography lowers women to nothing more than sex objects. It causes you to lower not raise your view of women. 

The Puritans had it right sex is good, God gave it to us. But God knew that some activities would steal the blessing from us.  

Jesus doesn’t want us to lose that blessing or our soul. That is why he gives the hyperbole about cutting off your eye or your hand.

 No, he wasn’t saying you should disfigure yourself or castrate yourself. He was saying to do what is needed to take care of the problem. Set up protections on your computer, if you have a smartphone with video and you can’t seem to control it turn off the video or go to a flip phone. Is the TV the problem? Unplug the cable, do what is needed because sex as good as it can be in this world doesn’t last not in this world and definitely not in the world to come.

And that leads me to the second thing Jesus said about sex though you may not realize it if you read the passage. 

Jesus was being asked about who a certain woman who was widowed 7 might be married to in heaven. The story was designed by the Sadducees in to confound those who believed in the resurrection. 

Jesus shows them that their own scriptures (they only believed in the first five book of the bible) that people did not just end when they died. But right before he does that he says something that has confused and disheartened some people. 

Matthew 22:30 At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.

For someone who is in a really good marriage the thought of going to heaven and not being married sounds horrible. We, I am one of these people, cannot imagine not being married. It seems like we are giving up something good. What Jesus is saying is that in heaven there will be no sex. 

The thing about it is we aren’t giving up something we are moving on to a deeper relationship. Something more. Jesus isn’t saying that sex is an undesirable thing something we need to give up, but that we will move beyond it. Our relationships will be built on something more, it won’t be needed. 

Imagine again you are given an island in the pacific. It is about the size of this property, has beautiful beaches, nice house, palm trees and of course a perfect climate. Behind the house is a small pad for a helicopter and on the beach, is a dock with a boat. 

Are you going to tear down the palm trees and part of the house to put in a very, very small road and then deliver a full-size truck to the island? No. you don’t need it. 

In fact, it would spoil the whole place. A truck isn’t needed or wanted on the island, here on the continent it is useful but there it actually diminishes everything. 

Sex in heaven is that it lowers the beauty of hea because it doesn’t belong. 

If that illustration doesn’t help think of this one.

Imagine going out to your favorite restaurant. You have a full meal and a great dessert. You’re not sick but you and content. Imagine the waiter coming by and now saying “We found this old piece of stale bread with a small bit of mold on the back floor of the pantry, would you like to eat it?” 

If we had gone a week without eating and nothing else to eat was coming our way we might take that bread and we would probably enjoy it, but that is not where we are. 
We are not starving we instead turn the waiter away and have him throw it out to the birds. 

We live in a world that needs love, needs connection, sex in the right context is like that piece of stale bread to the hungry. In our present state sex in its proper context is a gift from heaven. Something to satisfy our desire. But in heaven, it won’t be because life there will be so much more. 

There is much more the Bible says about sex but we won’t go into that today. But I will remind you that inside God’s plan it is a good thing, outside of it. Like driving a truck improperly, it will eventually get you hurt and it could get you killed. And it will eventually separate you from God.

My sister in Law use to make a desert called better than Burt Reynolds, I found out later it has also been called better than sex. 
I won’t comment on that but I will say this heaven is better than any pleasure we can have, and that is why Jesus says it is more important to get there than anything you can have here on earth.