Nobody Knows

 

Romans 14:13 Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.

I am surprised about the number of pastors who see it as a bragging point that no one knows they are a pastor. Normally, I assume (and hope), this is because they dress like everyone else. However, I thought about other professions and put their words into it. No one knows I'm a police officer. No one could tell I was a doctor. No one could tell I was a lawyer (okay this might be a good thing). No one could tell I'm in the army. 

In other professions do they brag that no one could tell they are what they are? Well yes, in the police department if they are working undercover. The reason there is because they want to deceive people, which I can't see as being a solid foundation to bring people to God. 

So are we ashamed of being ministers? Personally, I think it may be. There is also some idea growing in the church that being different is a sin...

When I started thinking about the subject that came to mind I remembered the verse I mentioned at the beginning of this post. Yes, I disagree with those that brag about not being seen as pastors. However, these men and women are trying to serve God, so I need to be glad for them. They are living, I have to assume, as God has given them the grace to. If they aren't, then God will correct them or God will deal with them. It is not my job to judge. 

Yes, I have at times been judged for looking like a minister, but this is their problem, not mine. Mine, as is yours, is to live the life God has called us to. For me, at this time, it is by wearing a clerical collar to announce to the world and to remind myself, I am a slave to Christ. Much like wearing a wedding ring reminds me and the world that I have taken the marriage vow. Others don't wear collars or wedding rings and that choice is between them and God. 

Nobody knows what your real motive may be, but God does so I choose to let him be the judge, which isn't where my thoughts first started today but a good place to end.  

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Knowing So We Can...

 

Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Romans 12:15

I have quoted this scripture many times in my teachings as a reminder of how we are to react to each other when our circumstances don't match theirs. If we truly love those around us we can rejoice when things are going well for them even when they aren't for us. If things are going great then we should set aside our smiles and weep when those around us are weeping. 

This isn't trying to be fake or being a chameleon. What it is, is feeling for others. It's being honest, "Things are going good for me, but I care about what you are feeling." Personally, I think it is often harder to rejoice with people who are doing well because jealousy wants to sneak in. However, whichever is harder we need to work at both.

This is not what this blog is about.

I read 2 Corinthians 8:1 this morning in a devotional; "And now, brothers and sisters, we want you to know about the grace that God has given the Macedonian churches." It then when on to ask what has God been doing in your town? 

I then asked myself, how can I know what is going on if I'm not asking? How can in light of Romans 12:15, rejoice or weep with them if I never see them? We may not agree on points in scripture but if they are believers in Jesus we should be more concerned and not ignore them. They are family, after all, maybe the strange side of the family but family. 

How can we live this out? Maybe just a call, or joining the ministerial association, or starting/joining a prayer group for pastors. Perhaps just listen a little closer when we hear updates from those around us. Whatever it is we can't act on what we don't know. So maybe we need to work a little harder on knowing? 

I'm not saying, we should put ourselves in partnerships we need to avoid or celebrate when cults are doing good, but we ought to try and know so we can live out this scripture. 

Let's be honest when the world sees we can rejoice when what they see as our competition doing well, then they will see Christ.

Getting Uneven

Richard Karn played Al Borland on the sitcom Home Improvement. In the show, if you wanted a handyman he was the guy. Later he wrote a book entitled House Broken: How I Remodeled My Home for Just Under Three Times the Original Bid.

I laughed when I read the title. I personally know what it is like to think a home improvement project is going to cost a certain amount and then having it cost me a lot more. Maybe I should correct that last statement and say I took on remodeling an entire home and it cost me more than I sold it for and cost me some of my health. It was a horrible investment. I had watched HGTV and Bob Vila so I could do it. In my defense, I also helped remodel a swimming pool into a house so I had some experience doing renovations. I was wrong. If I had talked to a real professional who had done a thorough examination of the house I wouldn't have got a bid, the pro would have said don't buy it or perhaps burn it to the ground. Long story, short I understood Karn's dilemma.   

I share all of this to say that getting even, getting revenge, or holding on to unforgiveness is like taking on these types of projects. They are going to cost you far, far more than you realize. I could write a longer post than this but let me sum up why it will cost you more.

1. The time you spend brooding on revenge steals time from other more constructive areas. This includes taking from self-care, family, and productivity for yourself and your community.

2. If you try to even the scale, you will look like the bad guy. Put in just a monetary example: A person does something which costs you $100 dollars. You spend 10 hours trying to get even. So if your time is worth $10 an hour, to make the person pay the full cost you need to get them for $200. Now you might think it is fair, but let's turn the tables and say what if you were the one who was charged $200 for a $100 mistake. 

3. Revenge tends to cost you in retribution for your retribution. Just look at the middle east and we can see this doesn't lead to anywhere good. 

4. It robs you of peace of mind and gives the wrongdoer power over your life. This in itself is a good enough reason.

5. It robs you of getting true justice (maybe in this world, but ultimately from God). 

If you are Christian it also means you are choosing to disobey God and that means you won't be getting many of His blessings. Always a bad idea in my mind. God says let go, it cost us less, and God will make it right in the end. Personally, I like things that cost me less, especially when they get me something better and forgiveness does.     

Productivity doesn't help, if...

 

It doesn’t matter how much you get done if you’re in the wrong place you are going to feel lousy. A copywriter can produce tons of material and be praised for their work but in their heart, they feel they need to be someplace else the praise will mean very little.

There have been people in high-paying jobs on Wall Street who left to clean out septic tanks. Why, because they knew that wasn’t where they belonged.

Yes, there are times when we have to work at a place to meet obligations or to take care of family, but there has to be hope and I would say a plan for things to change.

Are you where you need to be?

If not make a plan to get things changed. You’ll never find peace if you are not where you're supposed to be.

This is true in work, in where you live, and always in you’re spiritual life. 

Don't preach on forgiveness!

 

Don’t let the preacher preach on Forgiveness if:

Okay, you may think that this has nothing to do with you because you are not a minister and you never preach. Let me tell you if you're a parent then you have preached. If you're a friend, you have preached. Now you may never have stood behind a pulpit but all of us have stood in a position of authority and instructed somebody, so this blog is for you, not your pastor.

SO WHEN DON'T YOU?

When you do not live it. 

It doesn’t take long for most of us to realize when someone is having lots of trouble forgiving (or just refusing to). The person you are talking to just will not listen, because they may think you are insincere or just a hypocrite. 

Example: I can say that regular exercise is good and being overweight is bad, but I will not motivate others to do what is right in these areas. Why? I don’t exercise regularly the way I should though I can start talking about my diet.

What did Jesus tell us about trying to pick the speck out of someone else’s eye while having a log in our own (Matthew7:3-5)? Consider Romans 2:1. Paul warned about judging another while doing the same thing.  

Now I am not saying that you have to be perfect in order to teach a truth? No! What I am saying is that the person your talking to may not hear you.

Remember, you may not be a minister but you are a preacher and a preacher should live what they preach or at least struggle to.