If you love her, die.

She's the Queen.

 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. Ephesians 5:25-27

The verses before this are often argued over, misused, and misinterpreted. However, I don't want to focus on women's submission but the radical thing Paul is saying to husbands. Paul says husbands need to do one thing for their wives, die. Oh yes, lots of guys say they are willing to die for their wives to protect them but they won't die to themselves and help change the diapers or listen to her talk. Men often want to talk about being willing to die but are they really willing to die like Jesus? Remember all that Jesus gave up. He left heaven, he worked with some really hard-headed people and those were the disciples, and he took abuse that was not deserved without retaliating, I hope you get the picture. I have said this before in other posts, but if men are going to claim the wife submit they had better first be dying (sacrificing) to make the woman all she can be. This means helping her be the greatest mother, teacher, CEO, congresswoman, president, author, etc that she can be, not the greatest thing you want her to be. You, husbands, are the servant, not her. Servants don't hit their masters. They don't yell at them and they certainly don't expect to be served hand and foot after a hard day's work.

Oh, for those who think Paul hated women? Read your Bible without bias and you will find God through Paul had a real sense of humor. Paul first tells men that their wives are to submit to their own husbands (not someone else's) in the Lord (doing what is right). But then, tells the men, "Oh, by the way, you're really the servant here."  

I'm sure this really went over well in the Roman patriarchy. 

It's kind of funny when you think about it. She, the wife, is really the queen. You husbands aren't the king.